My Introverted Saturday

 


Here it is, Saturday once again, and I find myself nestled comfortably at home. I’ve never really been one to embrace the traditional Saturday routines, out and about town, shopping endlessly. No, not for me. Not that I don't enjoy doing those things, but I'd rather do it mid-week.  Before I married my second husband, I enjoyed having dinner get-togethers with my girlfriends, filled with laughter, good food.  We would spend Saturday nights singing our favorite tunes at karaoke bars. Those vibrant times now feel distant. Time has taken its toll; three dear friends have passed away, another moved to Nevada, and one to Kansas. The only friend still around is caring for her mother.  Life has changed, leaving behind echoes of what once was.


Within my soul, is the quiet yearning for the solace of home.  My heart is drawn to the comfort of my own space, where I can recharge and indulge in the simple pleasures of the day. I mean, for me, what could be better? 

I know, I know, BORING to most but not to me, I call it contentment. 






Then there is...

My extroverted social husband is always eager to be on the go, bustling from one adventure to the next. I must admit, it can be quite exhausting—not in a physical sense, but mentally.  As an introvert, my essence thrives on moments of quiet reflection, the comforting embrace of home, and the pursuit of creative or intellectual outlets. When I don’t carve out enough of this cherished downtime for myself, I begin to feel overwhelmed.

We complement one another, honoring each other's unique personality needs. He brings his strengths to the table, and I do the same, creating a balance in our relationship.

At church, I tend to embrace a "behind the scenes" role, preferring to observe and support from the sidelines, while my husband takes center stage. He immerses himself in the rhythm of the worship team, skillfully playing the conga drums and occasionally picking up other percussion instruments like the bodhran. He thrives in his element, immersed in what he loves, while I sit back, soaking it all in and enjoying the moment.



 What exactly defines an introvert? 

Introverts thrive on solitary reflection, valuing personal space and quiet over social interactions that may leave them drained. They prefer tranquil environments and the beauty of nature, excelling in deep thought. Their communication style is thoughtful, often weighing words carefully and favoring internal processing before expressing themselves.








This sentiment doesn’t imply that I harbor any dislike for people; rather, it reflects a fundamental difference in our social needs. While some thrive in the bustling energy of social interactions, I find them somewhat draining. Plus, let’s be honest, who doesn’t revel in the warm companionship of their dog over that of other people? 

Okay, fine—perhaps those who aren’t fond of dogs or don’t have one of their own might disagree. You got me there!


I find it utterly fascinating how God intricately crafted each of us with our own unique personalities, including those who identify as introverts. Each individual's essence plays a vital role in the divine tapestry of life, serving His purposes in remarkable ways. In Ephesians 2:10, it beautifully states, "For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them." God has designed every one of us with distinct gifts and temperaments, each tailored to fulfill the meaningful tasks He has envisioned for us. Our diverse personalities are not merely random; they are part of a master plan that calls us to contribute to the world in ways only we can.

I believe introverts, characterized by our reflective and contemplative nature, possess a unique ability to be used by God in truly profound ways, but are often overlooked by churches who want us all to be the busy-worker-bees-types and are missing out on what we introverts can bring to the table - our natural inclination toward listening deeply to hurting people without talking, and demonstrating empathy, and engaging in thoughtful prayer behind the scenes. You can always count on an introvert to pray!  In 1 Samuel 16:7, I'm paraphrasing here, "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance of introverts who appear to them as withdrawn, shy, with no social skills, but the Lord looks at the heart." 💓💓

This paraphrased verse reminds us that introverts, like all believers, are not only cherished by God, but are also uniquely equipped to serve in His kingdom. Our quiet strength and ability to connect on a deeper level allow us to contribute in ways that are invaluable and extraordinary.


Famous Introverts

Abraham Lincoln, Mahatma Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Rosa Parks, Bill Gates, Elon Musk, Meryl Streep, Harrison Ford, Vincent van Gogh, Maya Angelou, Marie Curie, J.K. Rowling, Albert Einstein, Dr. Seuss, Steven Spielberg,  just to name a few. 

Biblical Figures

  • Moses: Often portrayed as reluctant to speak publicly, relying on his brother Aaron to address the people
  • Mary of Nazareth: Described as contemplative and reflective, pondering events “in her heart”
  • Paul: Known for his extensive missionary journeys and powerful letters, Paul showed many introverted qualities in his approach to ministry and teaching.

Tomorrow or Monday, I plan to delve into the fascinating world of extroverts. Did you know that approximately 50-70% of people worldwide identify as extroverts?  






So are you an Introvert or an Extrovert? 




Comments

  1. I love that your hubby gets you and gives you the quiet time you crave. That's a wonderful thing. Happy Weekend.

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  2. I too would rather do those Sat out and about days during the week too.
    I think I'm a bit of both. I like going out but like staying home too.

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    1. Oh I like going out I just look forward to coming home so I can recharge.

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  3. I'm watching The Chosen, and on the show it's interesting to see how the Disciples all had different personalities, but each with special talents in their own way. Growing up, I've always been outgoing and a leader in school activities. And through the years I've always been vocal in defending those who are not treated right. But I do crave time for myself, and I love the home. In fact, if I don't have this cherished time for myself, I can get overwhelmed just as you said. I don't have a desire to always have parties and celebrations. For my family, Yes, but that's about the extent of it. Paul, who was also known as Saul, I don't believe was an introvert. He was one who boldly preached the kingdom of God. Your post was interesting, and I learned a few things about introverts. They have many special gifts to give.

    ~Sheri

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    1. Hi Sheri - God indeed used ordinary people with different personalities throughout the Bible to accomplish His purposes. Each person was equipped by God to fulfill their role in His plan.
      Yes Paul seems to be both at different stages of his life. Paul also displayed introverted tendencies. He often spent time in solitude and prayer, seeking guidance and strength from God. Of course he was empowered by the Holy Spirit! That’s why I sure makes the difference.

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  4. I am an introvert and my husband is an extrovert, just like you and your husband!!

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  5. I would say I'm more an introvert than an extrovert and my husband is definitely more of an introvert. But you're right - God has a place and tasks for all of us using the gifts and personality He gave us.
    Very interesting post!

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  6. I am an introvert and I wear that as a badge of honor, Debby. Yes, I love people, I taught for years in schools, I was a part of our praise band ministry in a former church, but if I don't have that alone time and down time? I'm a complete wreck! Retirement has certainly allowed me to embrace my introverted nature yet still turn on the energy when I need to. Blessings, and thanks for your honesty in this post!

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    1. I appreciate my introvert nature the older I get.

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    2. I am both. An extrovert at work when I have to work with clients and co-workers. I am very talkative and friendly. At home on the weekends I am an introvert. Am happy to be by myself with no one around except the dog while hubby is working the store. I get somewhat perturbed when someone disturbs my weekend routine of being alone. Now with my mom's situation my "me" time has been disrupted. I will deal with it, but I do realize I need some alone time to re-charge for my upcoming work week. Janice

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    3. I ran a successful daycare business so I know how to turn it on for work because I had to earn a living. But it was a business in my home so I was very happy and content and totally in my element.

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  7. I have always thought of myself as an introvert but I did the test and it came out as extrovert. As I have gotten older I have also cared less what others thought of me and tried to be braver in trying things and doing things even if I have to do it alone. If the test showed a sliding scale I would think I might be more 60% extrovert and 40% introvert these days.

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    1. It said I was 100% introvert which was no surprise.

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  8. I think most people have elements of both introversion and extraversion and can change according to circumstance and company.

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    1. Yes, that is called ambiverts. Ambiverts can adapt their behavior sometimes needing solitude and sometimes enjoying social interaction depending on the situation.

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  9. Ta da, I am an introvert as well, smiles. Surprising, no, not really. Wishing you a lovely day.

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  10. It is so nice that you and your hubby compliment each other even though you have opposite personalities. they say "opposites attract" I think the same could be said for Sam and I ..... In our earlier years, he was very outgoing and I was more of an introvert. I'm not sure when, but it is as if we swapped personalities. I am the outgoing one now, and he tends to sit back and enjoy the slower things of in life. I do most of the talking! Imagine that!!! I am already excited to learn more about the extrovert traits.

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    1. I can see you as an extrovert or an ambivert. I have always been an introvert even as a child I can recognize the traits but as our young personalities develop , we still have to go to school etc. We learn to adapt to society but as we get older and more confident is when our natural born trait is able to bloom. I’m with Martha. I wear the badge with honor! lol.

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  11. Over the years I've become more extroverted, but I could easily go for days without talking with someone

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    1. I do think we get more that way as we get older - we’re more comfortable in our skin. I see it even in my extroverted husband.

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  12. I think I am a little bit of both. Put me in a room with a bunch of people I don't know and I can't think of a thing to say. Plus I immediately wish I wasn't there! But at work I love to interact with all the people! I do love my alone time though. My husband was introverted when we met and is now extraverted!

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    1. The older I get the more I am uncomfortable at large gatherings of people I don’t know. I wish I could work through that.

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  13. Hi Debby! I'm back again because I was the next person to comment after you at Shug's blog. I liked reading your Sunday traditions and want you to know that you are always an encouragement to me in the way you and your husband live out your faith!

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    1. Well thank you for saying that Mari - so kind of you. I hesitated for sure.

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  14. Well, I know my husband and daughter are introverts. I am a blend. I love to go out and be with people and I love being home.
    I have never thought of Paul as an introvert.
    I am glad you and your husband complement each other.

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  15. I just read your extrovert post before coming back to read this one. I am glad that there is a balance of both extroverts and introverts in the world.We need both types of people to keep the world (and especially the church) functioning properly. I think in my latter y ears I have become more introverted than I ever was before, but still I know my true nature is that of an extrovert. I believe that as I have matured in Christ, I have developed more introvertive qualities that have helped to balance me out. And also, with age, I just love being at home more than I ever did before. I appreciate this post and the one that follows. You are also an excellent teacher and writer. Thank you for sharing your gifts with us. You are a blessing.

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    1. Imagine a world where we were all exactly the same. How boring!
      Thank you Pamela, you are a blessing as well.

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  16. How alike we are, Debby! I look back at my early adult years almost incredulously -- yet fondly for having been there. Contentment is a gift.

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    1. Yes contentment is a gift it but can be easy overlooked or dismissed due to always striving for something better. Contentment is beginning of a happy life.

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  17. I am an introvert I have always preferred my own company and there are days the thought of "peopling" is exhausting. Peopling is the term my daughter uses when talking about being around other people.

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    1. That’s funny. The Christmas season is when “peopling” can be exhausting! I figured you for an introvert.

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